... a mother, writing about adventures in assisting and advocating for her young adult son who has special needs,
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Showing posts with label epilepsy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label epilepsy. Show all posts

Monday, September 14

Monday Musings...

Mondays are often dreaded - but I usually enjoy them. I tell people that I like Mondays since they signal a new beginning. New beginnings are great motivators! Starting the day with a clean slate and increased energy (created by resting on the day before!) can lead to a wonderful and exciting day.

We sure had some excitement today! Our son David had a FLURRY of break-through seizures this morning while he was attending UCP-Birmingham's LINCPoint day hab program. This led to a trip to the ER, as his seizures continued one after the other. His break-through seizures occurred in the process of our neurologist's attempts to manage his many seizure medications.

People who have seizure disorders or epilepsy depend upon medications to increase the threshold at which their seizures occur. Everyone's threshold is different, and everyone's seizure disorder is different. Most neurologists aim to: achieve the least number of seizures ... using the least amount of medicine ...with the least amount of side effects, including loss of alertness or sedation.

This is the direction our neurologist was going when we were told to reduce a drug that turned out to be a necessity for our son. Balancing seizure medications is a very complicated task, especially when you factor in that every person's chemical makeup is different, and their reactions to changes in medications vary so drastically. The tenacity with which our son's personal seizure disorder "sticks in there" also makes the balancing of the goals of fewer seizures, least amount of drugs and side effects VERY difficult. It has always been this way for him, ever since the onset of seizures at 7.5 months of age.

David's seizures today were complex-partial, which is the typical presentation of seizures for him... one part of his body jerks rhythmically while he loses most of his consciousness. It's not pretty. Over the years he has had multiple types of seizures, and has had more seizures than we cared to keep a count of since they topped 3500 back in 1990. They occur MUCH less frequently nowadays, ever since the FDA gave approval in the early 90's for more drug studies in children with epilepsy. Without those "new" drugs, many of which included our son David in their drug studies, David's life would be an entirely different picture. We are SO THANKFUL that the pharmaceutical companies were given opportunity to prove that there were drugs that could help children with seizure disorders. And those same drugs were first made available to the adult population - one which David has now joined.

Life with a child with an intractable(uncontrollable) seizure disorder is never boring, but of course has its ups and downs. Today was definitely not boring... yet our son made it through the overwhelming challenges yet again. He is recovering. What a trooper!

Throughout his life, our son's experiences have pointed out the ways in which the rest of us are really the disabled ones. How many of us could constantly get up and face everyday peacefully and even cheerfully if we had these seizures to deal with? How many of us (who consider ourselves normal) could remain as calm toward those who make remarks or judgment calls toward us because of our differences? How many of us... the questions go on and on endlessly in my head. Whose accomplishments are the greatest - those of a person with much physical strength and mental power... or those with very much less? Can we really view ourselves as better because we can achieve more or "bigger" things... when persons with special needs put forth so very much energy in just achieving the taking of a breath, or the whisper of a word, or the completion of another difficult task. Are any us, deemed to be "normal", proving ourselves to be anything MORE than ... lazy, irresponsible, or ... disabled ?? I think we have a LOT to learn from those we label as disabled.

So today marks another chance for a new beginning. Let's begin today as one who is responsible, as one who is not lazy, as one who makes the most of every opportunity.



"From everyone who has been given much,
much will be required."


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Thursday, July 30

DAVID TURNS 25 TODAY!!!

It seems impossible. My youngest son is turning 25 … TODAY!

There are lots of reasons I could give for this feeling of impossibility, and many people would instantly identify. However, not so many people would guess correctly the main reason for my feeling this way. You see, on my birthday twenty-three years ago, my husband and I were told that David had less than a year to live. He had been diagnosed with a terminal disease. Nothing in life has been as painful as that moment.

But … David is turning twenty-five today!! YES ! I’m writing today to outwardly proclaim what I’ve been proclaiming inside for the past 23 years: PRAISE GOD for willing that there be a life for this young man, David Allison! His life has changed mine.

I hope you will PRAISE GOD with me for the impact that he and his life have had upon others: our family, our church family, our friends, his friends, and his doctors and teachers. There isn’t anyone who has known David, really known him, who won’t recognize this delighted grin in his pictures below…









So, because the earlier diagnosis was actually incorrect, as discovered by an outstanding doctor (his very own pediatrician from birth)... David has lived to celebrate many birthdays, and TODAY is his 25th!

Praise God for people who do the very best they can at their job… every day! One day, one little “no-longer-significant” blood test provided the information that gave my son his life back. Someone took their responsibility seriously! May we all learn from this, and put everything we have into everything we do. Daily. Someone’s life may depend upon it!

And what a life it has been!! YES, filled with ups and downs! Whose life isn’t? YES, costly in the financial sense. Whose life isn’t? But what a life he has had – fitting in fun whenever he could… garnering pet names for himself, such as Davey-Wavey, Pretzel-Man, Seabiscuit, and now the grown up “Uncle Dave”.

TOMORROW, I'll post his story in pictures - as a part of our celebration!


SO… WILL YOU CELEBRATE DAVID’S 25th WITH US??

In asking you to join in our celebration, please remember that David doesn't need any gifts for his birthday. He doesn’t really want them . He isn’t into THINGS… unless they are chocolate or music - he is only interested in experiencing those, not stockpiling them!

Instead… to those of you who DO know David, or who know OF David, or who have grown to LOVE David… maybe you'd consider contributing a token amount to just one of the following groups, programs, ministries, churches, or facilities. They ALL do an outstanding, remarkable, and NECESSARY job of helping those who need a little help (or a lot!). It'd be great to know that some of these people and organizations would be receiving needed funds to carry on their work with and for people with special needs. David would love that!

How about donating, perhaps 25 dollars (or 25 cents!), to an organization or group that is working to help families and individuals who have special needs? Take a look below at the ones which have directly impacted David’s life.

SPIRITUAL Opportunities…
*Special Connections Ministry at Briarwood Presbyterian Church, in Birmingham, AL
... David’s current church friends - providing Sunday School class, friendship, and activities
*The JOY Ministry at Graceview Baptist Church, in Northwest Houston (Tomball, TX)
... David’s church friends, TX - provided him Sunday School, Bible Study, and a Christian Day Hab experience (prior to 2006)
* Sylvania Church, in Tyler TX
... David’s first experience of acceptance and accommodations in a church class … please give in honor of Dona Stone, his first teacher - she welcomed him with open arms!

EDUCATIONAL and CONTINUING EDUCATIONAL Opportunities…
*LINCPoint, by UCP-Birmingham – providing a wonderful set of programs - including the Day Habilitation Program which David currently attends weekdays
*St. Louis School - Wayne D. Boshears Center for Exceptional Programs -giving children with special needs a sense of independence and freedom within appropriate educational settings, and providing therapies and so much more for children with severe disabilities and special needs. (David attended 1992-2000)

RECREATION Opportunities
*Camp CAMP, in TEXAS (David is an 11-year veteran “special” CAMP-er!)
*Camp ASCAA, in ALABAMA (David attends for the first year this year!)
*Special Olympics bowling team – “The JOY Angels “from Graceview Baptist Church

MEDICAL Support and Opportunities…
PLEASE support the Children’s Hospitals…
in TX, AL, or ANY Children’s Hospital near you!

*UT-HSC, Univ. Texas Health Science Center - Houston, TX … provided research benefits, hospitals, and healthcare to David… 2000-2006.
*UAB Clinics and Hospital - Birmingham, AL … providing research benefits, hospital and healthcare to David… beginning 2006.


Thank you for your generosity!
And whatever you decide to do,
Please... tell them,
“David sent me”!


(Replies and comments are welcome. REPLIES to emails containing this information should be sent to: DavidAllison.turns25@yahoo.com COMMENTS to the blog will be monitored, but WILL show up later! : ) Please do not add more than one comment! )

Thursday, January 22

Change of plans...

Once again, we had to change our plans for the day...

Our son David had a seizure this morning as I helped him get dressed for his day. His seizures are pretty vigorous and take a lot out of him. So it's underrstandable that he requires sleep after them.

Anyway, we had a different day than what we expected. I had a day of errands planned, which had to be postponed; and David's plans had to be changed also. Typically, David attends a Day Hab Program every weekday... but not today. Today David spent his time spent resting and sleeping.

I filled my day with things that I would have done while at home in the evenings. My errands will get done another day. One thing we definitely have learned in dealing with our son's epilepsy is to be flexible... we always have a "Plan B".

On Thursday's I typically post a note to the blog called my Thankful List.
This Thursday, I am only adding one item to my list... there'll be more next week.

This week, I'm truly thankful for David's day habilitation program.
The program David attends on weekdays is UCP-Bham's Adult Program at LINCPoint. It's available for young adults with developmental disabilities in the Birmingham area. Our young adults with developmental disabilities are included in one or more of the various things available through UCP. It is an excellent program... with so much to offer!

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Monday, September 29

Monday Musings

Our son with special needs requires quite a bit of monitoring. Lately, I have been thinking about the progression of our monitoring attempts. The reasons for monitoring have also changed quite a bit over the years… and so have the tools we have used in monitoring his safety and his needs.

Our son began to have seizures around 7 months old – he developed epilepsy. His frequent severe seizures at that time required us to always be physically present with him. We carried him with us wherever we had to be, whatever room and whatever project we were working on. He slept in a tiny crib in the corner of our bedroom. I didn’t get sound sleep very often at all.

Soon our son’s seizure frequency and duration escalated, and we found that we had become so tired and sleep-deprived that we could barely stay awake or hear him when he had seizure activity. So we had to move him INTO our bed at night so that any activity would awaken us and we could take steps to be sure his airways were open. This didn’t last very long until MY doctor prescribed a night-shift nurse to be at our house overnight so that we two parents could function more normally. We have two other sons just older than our son with special needs, and they needed care… and their daddy needed to get to work and KEEP the insurance. Our monitoring methods changed from physically being present, to delegating someone else to be there physically for part of the time.

After the age of 2 years, our son’s prescription therapies changed, and so did his future. He’d suffered not only from the seizures and their effects, but from a toxic level of the very medications given to enhance his “quality of life”. Our monitoring took another direction, and we began to accumulate tools for helping monitoring our son and his safety and healthcare needs.

Our first tool was that of lab tests to determine levels of the drugs present in his body. (You modern moms will be cringing at this point.. but please note that my son is older, 24 years old now. And in those days, there was not yet the availability of a drug level test to help with the monitoring. Those tests became available for his medications when he was nearly 2 years old. )

Soon our toolkit was enlarged again when I chose to purchase a 2-piece, commercial intercom system, and used it to monitor the sounds from his nursery (at age 3) while I cooked or did laundry in another room. We were still not comfortable with relying on the intercom during the night… and had let our overnight nurse go due to an improvement in our son’s seizure pattern… so he again slept in that tiny crib in our bedroom at night. The intercom was the beginning of a new phase in monitoring. Eventually, I trusted the intercom enough to go outdoors again with the older two boys, with the intercom unit plugged in on the patio, or front porch of our house. We gained freedom with that and each subsequent tool we added to our monitoring toolkit.

Over time our son’s needs for monitoring have changed pretty dramatically. Our son still has the need to have monitoring for his seizure activity, and his safety. Over the years we have progressed from that small-office intercom system to the cutesy “baby monitoring systems” with the marvelous options of wireless operation (what freedom!), to a video monitoring system that also operated wirelessly and could be viewed on a TV or even recorded on a VCR tape (modern moms, please realize that when in use, this was CUTTING EDGE technology! )… to the current day model of using a “simple” webcam and software on two laptops… one that is outdated, but can connect wirelessly to the internet, and the other one that is newer and is Mom’s link to the outside world. We couldn’t imagine still being unable to be in a different room from our son… and I’m sure he wouldn’t want to go back to that old method of monitoring either. He enjoys his new-found privacy to listen to his music!

Our son has medication charts to monitor the medications given and the side effects are monitored as well. Those charts began as paper charts, and now are strictly stored on the computer in files that can be printed for the doctor visits, or shared via email or USB drives. Currently, there are even secure websites set up to store the information monitored!

During the school years, the need for monitoring was not less but more. There were meetings, and phone calls... letters and checklists... evaluations and therapies... home visits and team meetings...and all kinds of testing, All of this was necessary to monitor the need and developmental and educational progress of our son. Not monitoring those things was never an option. He depends upon us!

I find that now, my physical presence is still important in monitoring the kinds of services our adult son gets, and that will not likely change much in the future. It seems that with some things, there is just no substitute for a caring person, observing and researching the reality and the possibilities for improving the life of a person with special needs. As a parent, I truly am my child’s best resource. Other parents of children with special needs will understand this to be true. We need to encourage each other to take whatever steps can be taken to make this portion of special-needs parenting easier… that of monitoring the needs of our children. Networking with other parents may be the very best way to increase our resourcefulness, in caring for our children and their special needs.

Although after reading this it seems more than one person can do... please realize that this was a survey of the progress of the process of monitoring my son with special needs... over 24 YEARS. Also I'd like to offer a caveat that one of my dear friends taught me to use... "Your mileage may vary." : )


“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19